It's like they are spending the day with me without saying a single word.
Except they HAVE said a word: "kudos". In fact, in your scenario they've said it several times.
And in that context, I think kudos are the least valuable gifts...
Wow. Hmm. I guess I believe that it is unacceptably rude to comment on the relative value of gifts I've been given? (???)
I guess what it comes down to is that I just find that I am a much happier person if I avoid assigning hidden negative motives to the actions of strangers when I have no concrete reasons to do so. So, like, maybe half the people who click the kudos button on my stories really ARE trying to damn me with faint praise. But since I'm choosing to read these malicious kudos they're sending as unambiguous compliments, they're completely missing their intended mark, and I totally win. I feel pretty good about this as an approach to life in general, actually.
But of course you are entitled to approach things differently if you prefer. I just wish you (and those who share your feelings) would make it clear that you expect a certain kind of feedback from all readers of your work in the header info, so people can make an informed choice about whether or not they want to go ahead and read it.
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Date: 2012-04-10 06:09 pm (UTC)Except they HAVE said a word: "kudos". In fact, in your scenario they've said it several times.
And in that context, I think kudos are the least valuable gifts...
Wow. Hmm. I guess I believe that it is unacceptably rude to comment on the relative value of gifts I've been given? (???)
I guess what it comes down to is that I just find that I am a much happier person if I avoid assigning hidden negative motives to the actions of strangers when I have no concrete reasons to do so. So, like, maybe half the people who click the kudos button on my stories really ARE trying to damn me with faint praise. But since I'm choosing to read these malicious kudos they're sending as unambiguous compliments, they're completely missing their intended mark, and I totally win. I feel pretty good about this as an approach to life in general, actually.
But of course you are entitled to approach things differently if you prefer. I just wish you (and those who share your feelings) would make it clear that you expect a certain kind of feedback from all readers of your work in the header info, so people can make an informed choice about whether or not they want to go ahead and read it.